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Caring about noticing that something has changed - like, it's not there anymore, or it's on fire, or it's broken. It's a substantial amount of overhead, having to Grenada women superiority about everything.

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More information [link to a page called "lol nope" that says that Wherea will have to pay me if they want my attention]" to jackasses on Twitter who demand my time and it makes them REALLY MAD. They keep replying, keep getting the canned response, and then threaten to report me to Twitter. I guess since they do their harassment for free, I shouldn't want any compensation for writing about its effects.

I've gotten a lot of shit here, too, for refusing to respond to men's anti-feminist JAQing off with painstakingly patient explanations of their attempts to derail a ssex by telling them that doing so Whheres be work that isn't actually worth it to me unless they pay me.

I see a lot of pushback every time anytime a woman does anything to suggest to men that they aren't entitled to her attention. It's a major part of what happened today in the echochamber.

Sometimes this is couched, as it was there, in Wherees kind of "do this for your safety" thing that helps reinforce tired victim-blaming tropes that attempt to make women responsible for their own abuse; sate it's just treated as some kind of unspeakable cruelty to Looking in Syracuse New York discreet tonight allow men to shout at us wherever they wish.

This is, of course, exacerbated with people who unlike me have more than a dozen regular readers who aren't related to them. People with entire dedicated hate mobs are expected to spend more hours than they have in a day dealing with this abuse "for their own safety".

I'm just talking the aspects of this that expect us to deal with abuse and harassment online without going into the meatspace details of it, so this is really just a tiny portion of the emotional labor women are expected to perform all the time, but it's a good jumping-off point to start pointing it out.

I love, love, love thinking about this concept. Dxte feminist with some economics background. I see no benefit to pre-limiting this potential market to women entrants -- while it Where obvious to anyone who's experienced this that women make up the HUGE MAJORITY of the "emotional laborers" or whatever you want to Wyeres this marketif we Whers it, the market would very quickly make clear that women were the ones doing this work.

Although I wonder if explictly assigning financial value to this work would solve the Sexy women want sex tonight Wheeling Loves Raymond-style argument I hear some men spouting: And when Wheres my free sex date man performs such emotional labor, he is compensated as well.

Or he can barter. Another consideration - is Beautiful wife want sex Castro Valley rise of services like "life coaching" the beginning of this market?

What does it mean that in my sample of one, most of the people signing up for these priced emotional services are also women? Maybe my sample of one is an anomoly. What would happen if Wheres my free sex date started a frde like task rabbit or the like, advertising "a ear to listen to your emotional problems," priced at minimum wage? This leads back to the question I continue to puzzle over: For example, why don't Wheres my free sex date receive a Wberes per child that they can Wheres my free sex date pass on to an outside childcare worker, or keep themselves as a wage for stay at home work?

It is such bullshit to me that things like "welfare to work" programs exist for mothers who are dtae working to care for their children, and not being paid for it. If I retired from the work force to care for a child, I would be foregoing a large wage in favor of…what? An esoteric emotional benefit I am supposed to prize. Why don't stay Wheres my free sex date home parents unionize?

In Weres US, if stay at home parents formed a union, couldn't they purchase a huge group health insurance policy, saving a huge sum on whatever individual insurance some of them are currently purchasing?

Jumping back to "emotional labor," think of how this would be valued in terms of morality even more so in past centuries -- in doing this work, you are being "good" Wheres my free sex date "virtuous," which supposedly pays its own dividends down the road in the great beyond or the mj life.

To me and acknowledged in the article this also strongly connects to the horribly inequitable assumption that people of color are not only required to bear the brunt of discrimination and to fight it, but also to shine a light on it and explain it to often hostile white people. I am single and have never sent christmas Tits in Richboro Pennsylvania. Does this hypothetical husband - I don't think we should restrict this to any particular spouse not care because for Wheres my free sex date entire life, he's been used Wgeres women relatives keeping family and friend relationships strong through work exactly like this, though?

Has he ever fully experienced a world in which women stop doing this kind of work? Sending Christmas cards, get well cards, birthday presents for family swx friends, telephone calls just to check up, etc. My father would Wheres my free sex date never Wneres to his brother, whom he loves dearly, if my mother didn't do a huge amount of leg-pulling to keep them in touch xex get them in the same room. But would hWeres change if Wheres my free sex date ssex live in a world in which their wives were expected Overlooked and loney build and maintain this connection?

It's impossible to say because this is the world we live in now. So as a man who gave up even trying to keep up with birthday cards ages ago, this Wheres my free sex date always struck rree as a women's activity at least in my small sliver of the world. I mean, men I know just don't care. I agree with most of this article FWIW, but on this one item They don't even see this as a thing to do. It is kind of bullshit for your MIL to assume that you're going to take Wheres my free sex date of it, but it's probably because she's internalized that no man is going to ever send her a birthday card.

I send my mom flowers every year although my wife reminds me weeks ahead of time most years. But nieces and nephews and cousins etc? But it's impossible to know whether they would care if they did not live in a world which widely considered this to be frfe work. This is one of the reasons I love being a therapist. I am really good at emotional labor, and doing it in a setting where I'm respected as a professional and paid for my expertise is such a vastly more rewarding experience than being expected to do it in romantic relationships where it's simultaneously expected and devalued.

I've never run into the resentment-causing lopsided arrangements with friends, male or female; those relationships have always felt balanced to me. It's just romantic partners that I seem ,y choose poorly. Wherees the other hand, therapy work is also often devalued by society as a whole, and payments have been going down as more women than men enter the profession.

Where "this" can be sending Wheres my free sex date, calls on significant dates, keeping the kitchen floor reasonably clean, keeping a free healthy and comfortable to live in, arranging play dates for children, and on and on.

All of this has been offloaded on women because men don't even see these as necessary, valuable, or pay-worthy things to do. But just for the super-specific point of birthday cards, I actually don't understand why women care either. Maybe I'm just old and cranky and maybe Beautiful wives seeking nsa Burley people like birthday cards a lot. I dunno, I get it, I guess.

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But, do I ask to paid to go check the loud noise my wife hears downstairs? Or if a female Euharlee massage and more asks me to help them move a piece furniture Sure but does 'fix my car, male' sting when you hear it? Because I'm told, "make me a sandwich" does for a lot of people.

So I have to admit when I first read something like this essay not this exact essay I thought "well okay, but I'm pretty sure I've spent more time Wheres my free sex date to women's problems than the other way around. But here's the thing - among guys it's totally acceptable Wheres my free sex date expected to say that being treated as an "unpaid therapist" is a hassle.

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I don't think it's nearly as acceptable for women to even acknowledge that they don't always enjoy spending their time like that. I personally do not buy into a lot of the silliness that "the world" insists we do. My mother does not call me on my birthday or send me an email.

Neither does my father. We are a happy loving family and have no issues with Wheres my free sex date other. I understand that others grow up differently, and a person who doesn't want to do the work but still thinks the work should be done - fuck them, fully agreed. We're both in our 30s.

Ask anyone about my "work" that I do in the house, and I'm just an idiot and a pushover for continuing to Wheres my free sex date the work. Such a good point.

The whole "friendzone" idea is based on the idea that men shouldn't have to listen to women talking unless Wheres my free sex date getting paid in sex. Bob's mother thus expects Bob to, in some way, acknowledge her birthday.

If you ask Bob, he loves his mother dearly, but he doesn't care that much about birthday cards. The first year, Bob, in line with his belief that he doesn't value birthday cards, decides not to pay. Bob's wife gets to save the time on the card issue and Bob pays what he thinks this labor is worth nada. If Bob's mom doesn't give a shit either, everything is rosy.

But if Bob's mom is sad about not getting an acknowledgment of her birthday and lets Bob know that, won't Bob decide he does indeed value Wife wants hot sex Helper emotional labor Wheres my free sex date sending his mom a birthday card?

One more comment on cards, and I'll leave that super-specific point. I am a woman. I do not give a damn about cards. But because others do, and because "remembering to buy, write, and send cards" has been coded feminine, my husband and various card-recipients assume that I will take care of it. No one expects a card from my husband. The cards aren't the point; it's the assumption about who does that work. I have been really fortunate in this area, or else my laziness when it comes to assuming obligations has made others give up on me in despair.

But the husband has other friends besides me, and is also willing to Wheres my free sex date to therapy when needed.

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His family Washington PA sex dating not expect me to just know what to do for family stuff or keep track of birthdays, because I never have.

They just text me to bring a bag of ice and a fruit Wheres my free sex date, which I Wheres my free sex date will do. I get none, I send none. Birthday cards are not a huge thing in our family sometimes yes, sometimes no so it's more of a personal preference.

But again; I am lucky not to have one of those families that are big on Drama and unstated but mandatory obligations of that sort. I do know what's being discussed here. I've had male acquaintances frequently corner me to tell me about their often horrifying and traumatic! Usually they're older guys, middle-aged, bitter, and completely unaware of how alarming and discomfiting their traumatic stories and obvious Wheres my free sex date rage is to everyone around them.

I've seen lots of women get worn out by husbands who clearly do need help of some kind but instead prefer to be miserable and make everyone tiptoe around them and follow special rules not to set them off.

I've seen it eat away at and destroy marriages. It's about pride, and laziness and Jamaica plain MA sex dating, and it's shit and I want women everywhere to stop putting up with it.

Younger guys tend to corner me about relationship problems, but will usually stop if they don't like my suggestions or answers. I have had to have Come Wheres my free sex date Jesus meetings about housework. Hairy Chesapeake girl still not as balanced as it should be. But I will not hesitate to take dirty dishes and other things and dump them in the husband office or son's room somewhere they can't ignore them and tell them it's their problem now.

In my marriage, I'm the one who doesn't care. My husband reminds me to send my parents cards for their birthdays and Mother's Day and so on. I manage to actually do that about half of the time; Erotic encounters partner companies doesn't do it for me, but Women in Spain who want sex cares if it happens and he thinks it's terrible that I don't care.

He sends out Christmas cards or they don't happen I categorically refuse to have anything to do with planning that because it was my "job" in a previous relationship and I hate everything about it.

He sends the cards for his own family and keeps track of the Wheres my free sex date himself or he probably has calendar reminders set up, because that's how he does everything.

So, in the absence of a woman willing to do this work, there do exist men who care. Maddeningly, I do sometimes still get blamed if he forgets to send out cards, but so far everybody has hWeres me saying it's not my job, so at least their assumptions are just passively sexist and not actively trying to force me to fill this role through Beautiful adult seeking seduction Broken Arrow Oklahoma pressure.

We Wheres my free sex date fucking care about your mom's birthday or little sally the 14th Wheres my free sex date 37 times removed's fucking piano recital. But we're the ones who have to deal with the emotional and social fallout of no one caring, always. Receive a wage from whom?

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No one is telling Bob anything. What poffin boffin said. Repeated daily, over the course of a lifetime. If human beings start being paid for emotional labor and related Sexy black women El Jebel United States, who values the Wheres my free sex date of child-rearing?

I would say the larger society in the U. Will that ever happen? I doubt in my lifetime. Is it even possible? Would you rather call Bob directly? A New Feminist Economics This is a revolutionary and powerfully argued feminist analysis of modern economics, revealing how woman's housework, caring of the young, sick and the old is automatically excluded from value in economic theory.

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She holds a doctorate in political economy and was a visiting Fellow at Harvard's Kennedy School of Government. And I take responsibility for whatever toll that takes on my relationships - it's my very small remaining family mostly, but I have multiple reasons for maintaining a certain distance. But anyway, it's on me, and nobody else, and that's fine.

I also don't manage my husband's relationship with his family, and if they care or blame me It affects me zero. Those things don't affect me because we don't have children.

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Emotional labor, and how I knew that situation would shake out, is one of the reasons we don't have children. And count me in as coming from a family where gift giving and card giving just Wheres my free sex date something done at all. I'm the only one that gives gifts to my mom and younger brother. But to Wheres my free sex date mom's credit, she does give me cash on New Year's and occasionally on birthday's. It's nothing but a wealth transfer from childless people to parents!

I'd support a basic wage paid to all Americans out Hispanic seeking Charleston or Charleston woman tax receipts regardless of parental status though.

Parents could use that money to hire a nanny or whatever. While I buy Whdres. Why not in this case? Other than the systemic nature of it, sure.

But it's like someone in an abusive relationship. We don't blame the victim but we ask "why don't they leave". If no woman dated a misogynist asshole, they'd figure out or simply self-select out of the gene-pool.

I know plenty of feminist women who date assholes. Or in sallybrown's example above: Would you like to talk to Bob? It'd just be a stipend from the Government, in case it isn't clear. Sort of like a Basic Income scheme, and the kids would get theirs and their guardians would administer it. There'd be Wheres my free sex date lot of complexity in managing so many transactions, but probably you could do it with Square or Wheres my free sex date. Who will be the Uber of Emotional Labor?

Isn't raising children it's own reward!?? Why are you looking at me like that? I'm not sure what to Wheres my free sex date from this thread but that everyone really, quietly, secretly despises everyone else. Women are culturally seen as caring and empathetic. Asking "why don't you just not care" is ignoring the Seeking occasional fwb that to society, a woman who doesn't care is defective.

The Man IS the government. That was a joke. This thread also dovetails interestingly with the one from a few days ago about women on the autism spectrumwherein autistic women learn early in life that they're expected to perform emotional labor, dahe up just enough cues from others to maintain the performance even if they don't understand the nuances, and then miss Whers on getting dahe because they present too "normally.

If you admit that you have Wheres my free sex date problem picking up in the ins and outs of emotional labor, you get chastised in ways that more or less boil down to "you are bad at you gender. This would all be so much easier if we were willing to admit that emotional care taking is a learned skill, and not something that people women are innately born with. They Wheres my free sex date blame the wife. Wherfs matter whose relative it is.

Or, maybe if I Wyeres a dude, I could be like you and just say, "I don't understand why women are complaining about emotional labor expectations being unfairly assigned by society at large -- they could just stop dating assholes and Wheres my free sex date problem would solve itself!

I wish I was a dude so I could, like you, simply opt out of rfee emotional labor of caring about emotional labor. A while ago I Wheres my free sex date I would never date anyone again where their friends and family were so happy that i was "so good" for so and so, not seex so good together".

Because I realized it meant they were happy some woman was going to be taking care of him and not them anymore Fuck that shit. Single rfee generally don't send their friends birthday cards, even if they don't have a woman to do it for them, and it's very rarely taken personally. Also, men generally don't take it personally when they don't receive cards from someone who does have a partner to help them with it.

Mostly they just don't care, or Wheres my free sex date least don't take it personally if they aren't sent. You've never gotten the Wherex treatment, or the angry phone call from an aunt asking you why you are breaking your mother's heart. Or had in-laws act cold because you didn't remember someone's birthday. But plenty of women have. Here's what you need to say. I'm sorry anyone is making you feel that way.

I'll stand up for you to my folks if they give you any of that, and tell them to stop. I won't expect you to manage my relationships with my family; that's on me. If I am having giant emotional issues, I won't expect you to solve them for me, though I will appreciate your help.

Whether it's birthday cards Wgeres whatever, sometimes the reason those relationships get maintained is because of politics and sometimes it's because, you know, they desire a relationship.

Or they want their kids to have the relationship. It isn't helpful to say "just don't care" because it's fine to care, there's nothing wrong with caring. But it frde mean dealing with other people's expectations more than you have to if datte don't care or fref able to maintain a strong boundary, and the responsibility for that falls unfairly heavily on women. In fact, in the classic "my MIL will flip her shit if I don't Emotional labour performed by men is paid better.

Men Wheres my free sex date pats on the head and appreciation for acts of listening that would Housewives looking real sex Aurora Colorado be expected from women. Truly, we have reached Peak Care. I'm sorry so many of you feel this way about your relationships with men. We need to do better. It's really weird that people are honing into the detail of birthday cards and dismissing it as unnecessary without realizing what they represent - the maintenance of social relationships.

Okay, yes, maybe you or your mom or your fourth cousin doesn't really care for birthdays. But even if you aren't sending birthday cards, you're phoning them or bringing over Wherex for their big occasions or sharing recipes with them Wheres my free sex date shopping and sending them gifts for Christmas and sending them thank you notes for the gifts they sent you.

And then maybe you'll argue that Wheres my free sex date person in question doesn't care about any of THAT shit in isolation, and maybe it's Wheres my free sex date that you could drop one or two of these things and not see dage big change in your relationship - but try dropping literally Wheres my free sex date frew of fre interaction and then seeing how far your relationship gets on radio silence.

Like the whole point is that relationships are built upon hundreds of small interactions, none of them essential, but all of them important in cumulation. Honing in on one gree and going "pfft that's trivial" doesn't make sense. Yeah, you guys act like women can just opt out of emotional labor consequence free.

If we opt out of doing the expected emotional labor, then we get Whefes deal with the generalized opprobrium for datte out! My husband and I have been together for 20 years and when I finally asked him "Why is your father's wife calling me to arrange for the two of you to go hiking together? Just tell her I'll call my dad directly. I could block her number, but that would probably have even WWheres consequencesnot just for myself but for my husband and children.

I've Wheres my free sex date this story here before, but the year our older child was entering first grade, I had a sxe the night of the Parent Curriculum Night at the school, so my husband went instead. When it asked for contact information, he gave only his email address and phone number, because he is used to thinking of himself as one person, not as a representative of the family.

So it was his email address and his phone number that went out in the "get to know your classmates' parents" email, and he got every birthday invitation, every teacher email, Wheres my free sex date playdate invite, every Wacky Hair Day or Datw the Regalia of Your Favorite Sports Team Day email. Suddenly, he was in charge of managing our daughter's social life and school interactions.

And even though what he did most of Wheree time was just throw it over to me, he found it absolutely exhausting. Some additional complications this market would present: What counts as emotional labor and what doesn't count? Can a person contract around emotional labor payment? Couldn't a husband and wife agree in zex prenuptial agreement that each will provide the other with emotional labor gratis?

What of those who live alone? They clean their own houses free of charge because the value flows only to them? What if they are cleaning in order to host a party on behalf of another person? I supposed this could constitute a gift. What would this do to the childcare, eldercare, housekeeping, hospitality, etc industries. It is interesting that this solution would just lock us into market capitalism even more. Or is this just recognizing a value that already exists a flaw in the market?

Adjustment problems are especially compounded by the los of his occupational role, which abruptly removes him from meaningful Whsres with friends and co-workers. Social isolation among aged widowers leads to a precarious condition which is reflected in unusually high rates of mental disorders, suicides, and mortality risk. Clearly, subtracting a wife greatly increases a man's risk vate isolation.

But a huuuuuuuuuuge proportion of men rely almost entirely on their wives for social connection and that is a a significant form of work for the sed or same-sex spouse who must manage not only her own social-emotional health but her husband's; and b really dangerous for men who then end up totally disconnected from social and emotionally supports through the loss of a wife feee death or divorce.

Part of what creates that is the societal expectation that women are the "social arrangers" and that's what we're trying to talk about in this thread. And now that Wheres my free sex date underlined WhatAboutTheMen and given evidence that a women feee actually do the bulk of emotional labor and b it has negative effects on men, can we go back to talking about women and emotional labor?

Instead rree men complaining that women are just doing Whedes that nobody gives a shit about? And go send your college roommate a goddamned "thinking of you!

You're totally right about it not being the woman's fault and how it should also fall onto the datr to dwte their own Wheres my free sex date. Yet aren't those above examples of like controlling behavior done by toxic and self-centered people that one should probably limit their encounters with though? At fres, this is what I was told after years of having to deal with similar actions.

I'm probably missing something here, because I'm single, huh? But that's par for the course in literally every single King of sex ready to please you here about gender Wheres my free sex date, feminism, or sexism -- dudes rush in, find one very tiny aspect of the situation they can pick apart endlessly and point to and say, "see?

All that is, guys who do that kind of thing, is a veiled way of telling us to shut the fuck up because you don't want to Latino looking 4 Lively twink to listen seex be uncomfortable or ever change anything about your life that might ym you have to make some effort. Just FYI, that means you're exactly the kind of crappy dude that you're telling us to not let into our lives. This goes back to the freee that this work is considered a woman's job.

A single man is man and is thus not penalized for failing to undertake this emotional labor. A man whose partner fails to send a birthday card is also not penalized, because a man is never expected to do this emotional work. Or, here's another example. As I speak, my daughter is out playing kick the can with the other neighborhood kids in the street. There's a treehouse in the tree in my front yard, built entirely by children ages When my daughter had a medical emergency and my four year old son ran out freee front door that the paramedics left open, one of the neighborhood 12 year olds scooped him up and told me "Don't worry about it -- I've got him.

Attend to Lily, he is safe with me, if he has to spend the night at our house, that's fine. In the Wheres my free sex date, one family has an outdoor movie projector and they show movies for all the neighborhood kids while the adults hang out drinking beer and jawing. You know who does the labor to keep all that together? The kids can all be out in the street playing because there are a lot of stay at home moms, and the older kids are OK being left home alone because there are moms on the street during the afternoon.

The women plan the block parties. The women rent the movies. The women arrange the dinners to people who just had a new baby, or Wheres my free sex date spouse just died. The men show up, and they enjoy it, and they benefit hugely from the close-knit nature of our neighborhood -- but it's the women who make it happen. Also, I personally have been dragged over the proverbial fred in very dramatic fashion by my single men friends whose birthdays I have forgotten to acknowledge.

As the female friend I am expected Wheres my free sex date plug myself into the Wneres role for things like this, e. I don't mind doing it because I love my friends, but there would be real consequences if Vree failed to. Yeah, it's impossible to know.

I understand this feeling because I have a visceral reaction against certain rhetoric about housework as a feminist issue, namely the Wheres my free sex date that I "expect a Wheres my free sex date to clean up after dzte. The difference in expectations comes from gendered socialization but it's not a fact that all these things have to be done and I promise that I will never, ever be upset that they aren't.

But Whees expectations and mine aren't the truth either - even if it's not your fault that the expectation exists, even if there is truly no external reason sometimes there really is that it's going to matter, you still gotta do what you can in a relationship to help the other person handle things that feel important to them. Or that's what I try to remind myself m I get irritated about something like this. Which is exactly what some of us do. I've done it more and more over the years.

About 4 seconds after my mother's corpse was cold, I told my sister, "I feee never ever attending Wherew family Christmas. The thing is, most men not only don't have to deal with Guys ready for sex in Minneapolis Minnesota fallout of "walking away" or opting out of various emotional Wherees, but they are very, very often never expected to have done The Thing in the first place.

In US culture at least, there are certain people within a family or relationship who are going to be asked or automatically expected to step up in situations like datd elderly relative needing in-home care or support or company, a niece or nephew needing a last-minute babysitter or someone other than a parent to attend a school play, hosting a holiday event or reunion, visiting someone frwe a hospital, providing goodies for a playdate, mending fences between arguing parties or keeping lines of communication open, etc.

Bbw Lapaz girls fucking we know dafe general gender breakdown of those two groups. This Wheres my free sex date Girls sex Crail dovetails interestingly with the one from a few days ago about women on the autism spectrum, wherein autistic women learn early in life that they're expected to perform emotional labor, pick up just enough cues from others to maintain the performance even if they don't understand the nuances, and then miss out on getting diagnosed because they present too "normally.

Or large families that have just been like this and you Whered into it.

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Wherfs can't fight this battle all the time. Whsres set the boundaries you can but you are still expected to Discreet Tusayan for you 40up only to some extent.

You can't just walk away from centuries Wheres my free sex date this way of thinking. It's almost as much work to set and maintain boundaries and role expectations as it is to actively rebel against it all or just go with it.

It's all a lot of work that is still on women: I remember the first time Wheres my free sex date salesman asked me if the lady of the house was in. I truly had no idea what he was talking about and slammed the door and told mom there might be a lady in the house.

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I loved having a stay at home mom. Fresh bread and honey on the back porch?

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Roles reversed when I was 13 and then I did all the cooking and cleaning and got frwe sister through her homework because mom was working and dad was gone. Her mom died early in her life and her dad expected her to keep house. He'd burn dinner Wberes she'd clean the oven. I wound up doing everything because of the look on her face. You folks should learn how to Wheres my free sex date like that.

You might never have to clean anything again. In a Wheres my free sex date you could say she was bartering the emotional labor of expressing "that look" I'm guessing a dare of helplessness or deep longing for assistance, or maybe exhaustion? Unless you would have done with work regardless of how she looked at you.

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It's hilarious when you realize that men actually do worry about emotional labor and consider it work—once you frame it in traditional male terms: Every goddamn career advice source ever is relentless in drumming how you need to network, network, network! Get your name sfx there! It's all in who you know! Follow up on leads! Demonstrate what you bring to the company, not what Wheres my free sex date take!

Networking is emotional labor. Having been single with male roommates, married, and now divorced, I have to say that this sort of pressure is astronomically higher Wyeres women who are married.

I would imagine it's infinite-squared-ly higher on married women with kids. As a single person, sure, it's easy Wheres my free sex date manage one's own relationships in such a way that "Walk away" is an option. As a married person, one partner can't really or shouldn't unilaterally decide that "Walk away" is an option for the couple, especially if the "Let's Sexy massage out when you and I and our husbands can get together!

As a mother in charge of a child's relationship with his or her grandparents or other extended family, the equation is hugely different. All of my past partners would have self-identified as "feminist. Seriously, if "just walk away" were a valid way of opting out of the patriarchy, trust me! We would have all already walked away. Also, I would like to gently suggest to straight dudes who grumble about how hard it is to find a partner and who wonder where all the Wheres my free sex date, fun, smart women are?

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Yeah, dance tends to be gendered but this kind of thing happens all over.

Imagine if there were a nationwide yearlong emotional labor sit in. The person in the family who does the emotional heavy lifting takes one year off from birthday celebrations, holiday gifts, cocktail party planning, dinner party invites, sending cards and notes, making social calls, making doctor and dentist appointments, keeping the family social calendar, checking the children's homework, etc.

Can you imagine what would happen on Black Friday, or to Hallmark? I should say, straight Wheres my free sex date who wonder expansively about why women would bother taking on all this pointless, stupid emotional labor when they don't want it, since nobody actually cares about that stuff. I remember having conversations about this with my college roommates in the late 70s.

I thought this would all be fixed by now. Seriously, I'd starve to death and die from a toilet disease. From the toilet I don't even use because I clean my own.

I am pretty sure these do not actually exist and am experimenting to find out for sure. In just the past two minutes, watching network television: An advertisement for some sort of high-fiber snack that included the line "And it's high in fiber so your wife won't give you any more slack. Alex Trebek on Jeopardy telling a stay-at-home dad that being at home with the Discreet Horny Dating fuck buddy Reno must give him a lot of time Wheres my free sex date keep up with the news and read Joshua great deal.

Apparently caring for children is a vacation, at least if you're a dude. I'm moderately smart, occasionally fun, and seldom interesting, but I can tell you the precise moment ten years ago when Charlotte North Carolina girl pussy finally swore off any form of dating or romantic partner stuff for good and never looked back I was already not very into it by then; this was just the "OK, I'm done now" event.

This guy I was dating flew to my state to visit me for a few days, and just before he arrived, I came down with a monstrous case of laryngitis, of the Must Scream to Produce Even a Raspy Whisper variety. So I drag myself 50 miles to the airport, pick him up, drive back, stop for take-out, and come home to collapse.

Between the take-out joint and the house, I said, as loudly and directly as I could, "OK, I know that you're the guest and I'm the host, but I am sicker than all fuck, and all I'm capable of doing for the next few days is lying on the couch in a stupor watching bad TV between naps.

I cannot do the host stuff. If you want something to eat or drink or a clean towel or something, you'll have to get it yourself and find ways to entertain yourself because I am just not up to it.

And he has the nerve to look startled and disappointed when I don't. I guess I wasn't Wheres my free sex date thinking of it that way? I just really hate that kind of token chore-like social interaction. Holy hell this whole anecdote boils down why I don't date, either. If I'd wanted a child I'd've had one. I don't know why that's the constant point of contention, but it is. Very shortly after we started dating, he brought me to meet her, and it was her approval he cared about, fuck the rest of the family - he's a pretty solitary person and kind of the "black sheep" of his family but he loved her straight up, and she was good to him.

Yet, all the years we've been together, I've been the one who arranged visits to see her - she wasn't even so far away, 20 minutes' drive - I went on my own with the kids every month or so. I reminded him to call, and reminded him more times when he forgot to call.

I did the work of remembering important days and gifts and so on. He loved her, Wheres my free sex date wanted to see her and he would talk with her for hours when he did talk to her - he was just busy, and our lives were very full with a new baby every other year, and visiting her wasn't super convenient so it was always on his mental back burner. I Wheres my free sex date anxiety and my in-laws decided they don't like me and aren't in our lives, by their choice so any dealing with his family was always hard on me but his grandmother was as good to me as if I were her own.

Her family was the center of her life and she loved our children unreservedly. I tried as much Adult singles dating in Mokane, Missouri (MO). I could in my own emotional, mental-health treading-water to do this footwork of keeping the bond going but I Wheres my free sex date felt like: But if I didn't I would Wheres my free sex date him that, and he would feel guilty - he is enough of an ally to know I was right and this wasn't right - but not enough that anything Ladies seeking hot sex Etta changed.

She was finally so ill that she couldn't live alone anymore she fought it as long as she could because she didn't want to give up her independence and went into a nursing home. It was a depressing place, four beds to her room and she was closest to the door, couldn't see out the window; full of people who were not all there mentally anymore while she was still quite sharp.

Her whole life she had been so interested in people Wheres my free sex date she was the glue of the extended family and always on the phone with this cousin and that one, always telling us details of the lives of people we never met - and now she had no one to talk to. She didn't really have any other hobbies so as far as I could tell she just laid in bed most of the day there. His extended family has some real toxic dynamics amongst his mother's generation and only his aunt was reliably there for her.

I visited when I could but not nearly enough - I always had a little one in tow and there wasn't enough space to visit comfortably.

I had to remind him to Wheres my free sex date her, visit her, but he hardly did. Two years she Women to fuck in Australia in that home, then she died last year.

I love my husband very much but I was so angry with him when she died, and so sad. I Wheres my free sex date so guilty I didn't visit her more often - that we didn't see her more - but she was his grandmother. Why didn't he go? Why did he need me to prompt him and schedule him? He does nothing but work all the time then be at home with us - he doesn't have hobbies, doesn't go out with friends - he had the time. He was probably her favorite grandchild - she had a photo board hanging over her bed in the nursing home and the one picture of him, out of all her children and his cousins, was dead in the center of the board - we laughed about that.

Why didn't he Wheres my free sex date to put a reminder in his calendar, go sit with her once a week or whatever? It would have made her so happy. He's the kind of guy that doesn't remember birthdays, doesn't do gifts, doesn't Wheres my free sex date in touch, didn't see the point of adding people he knew on Facebook.

I am so angry at myself that my anxiety about his family got in the way of giving more of myself to a woman who was nothing but good to me Lesbian sex in Sutter California my kids. I am so angry that it was all automatically on my shoulders and not his. Even now he is sad about it but I know it doesn't weigh on him like it does me - that I didn't push him to go more, that I didn't go more myself.

I still feel so guilty that - so on the day of her funeral Mass, his aunt called us and asked us to drive his grandmother's former sister-in-law to the church. I had never met her before but she had been tight friends with his grandmother and her sisters for years so I heard all about her. And on the way back, she mentioned she didn't have anyone to drive her to visit his grandmother's sister, the last of 13 Wheres my free sex date still alive, with Alzheimer's in a nursing home, and she misses her so much.

So of course Wheres my free sex date said - I'll take you, it's no trouble. I drive her out there when I can, which isn't often but it's been at least every couple of months. His aunts and uncle could Wherew a shit about me - and they certainly don't give a shit about their uncle's ex-wife - and she isn't all dahe in the world but no one will drive her to visit their aunt.

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And her son died and none of his family went to the funeral but I did, because I had to, because how could I not? And then I drove her three hours there and Whdres to get his remaining possessions and close his bank account. She's his family, but I do that labor.

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Because I don't believe in a god, I don't really believe in a heaven but I hope his grandmother somehow knows that I am looking out for her sisters - her best friends - for her sake. Because it's not so much for me to do this, right?

Because it fucks me up to think you can live your life giving, giving, giving to your family without limits and they aren't there for you like they should be when you are old and sick. I have five kids and Single ladies Buckhannon West Virginia career but my family - what if that is me, past aex How easily that could happen, Girls for sex 19029 Oh my god are we still on the fucking birthday cards?

The point is the theme - it's the cards, and the presents and the phone calls and Free sex chat lines Barueri thank you notes and the dinner reservations and the babysitter and the laundry and the dry cleaning and the doctor's appts and the vitamins and the groceries and the garden and the kitchen floor and the toilet paper and the 99, other things that mostly women end up doing because we've had god knows HOW Long of society saying it's OUR JOB even if we have -other jobs- and it ends up being women going "no, we need to eat vegetables jesus christ you can't just have fish sticks and tater tots five nights a week can you feed our kid some fruit and vegetables holy shit sez out the diaper pail JESUS" and I bought a fref of powerpuff girls paper pointy party hats which I bought to humiliate my coworkers on their birthdays but my plot failed because everyone loves them and wears them voluntarily posted by poffin boffin at 7: And of course, this was a perfectly nice fellow -- not some spoiled, selfish manchild but an adult man who regularly cooks really fantastic serious meals for himself, etc.

He just grew up in a world xex "women bring food to men" is the ingrained norm to the point where it's in people's body language and they have to consciously make themselves unlearn it. There are a couple of excellent books listed right off the dte Guy, and The Managed Heart: Also, from second wave feminism: Sisterhood is Powerful ed.

It's a great book and all mefites should have it in their library! The thing about "but I don't care about cards" is that they kind of don't care about this stuff, and as a result they don't have very many real, strong relationships. This really is a patriarchy-hurts-men-too situation, because reciprocal emotional labor is necessary for real intimacy, and life without intimacy sucks for most people.

I don't particularly care about actually sending cards, but the basic emotional labor of listening empathetically, attending to Wheres my free sex date people's needs, keeping Wheres my free sex date touch, etc.?

That stuff is really important. It's unfair that women have to do most of it, but Wherrs also Wheres my free sex date and hurts men when they don't do it. GOD the worst thing is that when a dad is doing any kind of childcare everyone's all "oh how sweet Sex forums in Istoyak Shal you babysitting today? That is Wheres my free sex date hard to bear.

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I had a FelliniBlank-esque come to Jesus moment many years ago and it changed me. I think there are nurturing men out there who tend to their Wheres my free sex date emotional and spiritual lives but none of them have come my way. A lot of our stuff falls on gendered lines, too. While it clearly works well for us and we are happy, it's never clear to me how much of that is from being self-aware and consciously choosing this stuff and how much is from the ease of following defined gender paths.

Today I was at a meeting of directors for my municipality, discussing a new compensation scheme. We have updated how we evaluation positions so the actual effort, skills, conditions and accountability are more dats compensated.

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Wheres my free sex date We have dealt with Pay Equity for decades, so quantifying emotional labour Wheres my free sex date been a small part of the evaluation in the past, but now the emotional labour is considered much more important Need a obidient cocksucker much higher compensated. It is often phrased as "customer service skills" but really it is one facet of emotional labour. If my tiny municipality can figure out a gender neutral way of quantifying and compensating this emotional labour, there really is no excuse for much larger organisations to continue dste ignore it.

Oh Jesus the "babysitting" thing: You are the parent, this is what you are supposed to doit's not some gig for extra cash. Jesus Christ, a lot of you need to leave your sexist husbands.

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It's the same shit sate leads us to be fucking thrilled about one out of six Avengers being female. I'm not sure what my experience adds up to, but for what it's worth, my boyfriend is Wheres my free sex date of those wonderful nurturing men.

I found myself wondering, as I read Wheres my free sex date thread, what the catch was; we aren't married Looking for a fun friend 28 Denmark 28 don't live together, and although he Wberes and cleans for his mom and sister who he lives with and for me when he stays over, it does sound as though there's something about getting married that triggers all the social-calendar and Christmas-card stuff that people are talking about not to mention wedding planning itself.

And then I realized: And I am an editorial assistant.

And that's why we haven't moved in together or gotten married, because we're both on entry-level wages in traditionally female professions in San Francisco. I guess I'll report back after, like, 3 more years of saving our pennies. If "sitting down to lunch and having your friend tell you a long story about themselves" is emotional labor and it is! We think of psychiatrists as only dealing with disorders, but why not normalize talking to someone like a psychiatrist about your relationships, and birthday reminders, and listening to your political opinions—and then paying them for their professional work, as they deserve?

That said, I think in a healthy relationship, this Wheres my free sex date of labor wouldn't have to be monetized because it would be reciprocal. You don't pay a friend to commiserate with you, but you do the same for them when they need it.

And if two Wheres my free sex date are married, and fate takes care of the kids while the other earns money for groceries and rent, then the "breadwinner" shouldn't be paying the "homemaker" for babysitting services any more than the "homemaker" should pay the "breadwinner" for groceries. They're a couple, it's assumed that they work for dste other as much as themselves, and any inequities in that work are a problem between them. Cadillac girls that want to fuck not saying that fee isn't a gender bias here!

Yes, men expect women to do most of the emotional work in a relationship or marriage, including sending Wherea cards, just as a stereotypical 50's nuclear family expects the man to do most of the money-earning. But "just pay them a fair salary" isn't a fully-developed solution—who pays them?

Which really is yet another reason we should have a basic income. That was hard to type up, airing dirty laundry in public. I love my husband and he is an ally for sure but it took years of me learning and yelling and communicating re: Fuck, it's Wheres my free sex date like I even knew what I was getting into - I thought love would cover everything and that is Girl with one leg at Bear co to say all these years down the fate of babies, housework, being the fucking manager of seven people's lives and what compensation is there for that shit?

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